You say yes when you mean no. You go quiet instead of saying the thing. You replay a conversation for days. You read a sent message back over and over. You react in a way you can already explain and still cannot change. You want to stop this. You have tried deciding to stop it. But it keeps happening. This is the problem. The same reaction keeps firing in the same situations. You want to change it. But telling yourself to stop does not work. There is a way to work with this.

You keep reacting the same way even though it no longer fits. You say yes when you mean no. You go quiet instead of speaking up. You replay a conversation for days or read a sent message over and over. You understand why you react this way, but willpower has not changed it. Why your reaction stays the same Your reaction is a protective program. It formed when you needed it most. Back then, it helped you stay safe or get through a tough moment. It was useful once. But now, i

You know exactly why you do the thing. You can explain it clearly. Yet, you still do it. You say yes when you mean no. You go quiet instead of speaking up. You replay a conversation for days. You read a sent message over and over. You understand your reaction, but it does not change. This is frustrating. You might wonder why knowing the reason behind your reaction does not stop it from happening. Insight alone is not the mechanism of change. Understanding a reaction is differ

The definition of control is the power to influence or direct people's behavior or the course of events. If it takes power to control, then who's power are we talking about? The simple answer is, Your power. Control isn't about the people, places or events around you. It's about what's happening within you. Your power lies within the emotions that connect you to your life experiences. Most of us were taught at a young age to be obedient. Your first experience with control was

I've heard the saying, 'It's about the journey, not the destination', at least three times in the last week. I know it's a message for me to slow down and see what's good in front of me. Instead, my thoughts are on the end goal. I've taken several road trips and missed all of the beautiful views because I was so focused on getting to my destination. I've created a business that brings me new experiences, but I miss the value because I just want to be successful right now. We

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The better question would be, "Why wouldn't you have a Coach?". I spent the first few decades of my life without a coach in my corner and...